I used to want to fit in so much. I wanted to be liked by everybody, to be friends with everyone, be invited to all the dinner parties, coffee mornings, and after-work drinks. The fact is I wasn't. And I didn't fit in.
Maybe it was because I didn't have enough money to go on the spur of the moment girlie weekend trips to the spas or far flung trendy beaches. Maybe it was because my body was too big and just doesn't look great in the trendy designer fashion (as if I could even afford that). Maybe my sense of humour is a bit quirky. Probably it's because when I get a few too many drinks in me I can be a bit loud. Even sober I can be a bit loud.
Don't get me wrong: I have many, many friends who love me more than their luggage just the way I am. But my mind always focuses on those few unfortunates that just didn't quite get me. Then the paranoia sets in. The ones who don't quite get me are trying to convince those that did to not get me anymore when I reality if they ever did discuss me, my friends would have told them to fuck off.
In my mind I feel I am just simply not good enough. I grew up thinking I wasn't good enough. I've had a series of setbacks that told me I wasn't good enough. It doesn't matter how many times I've been told that I am amazing, outstanding, interesting, extraordinary individual with a limitless capacity for compassion and generosity. All of those fade into the background over the shouting of "not good enough".
In my depression, I cling to that like a self fulfilling prophecy. I have every reasonable excuse to never ever be good enough again.
But if I focus on just this very moment, right now, and not a moment longer, I am good enough to write this and hope someone finds that they were good enough to read it and it helped.